Thread: My bf keeps getting sex/casual dating spam mail – can I get worried or run?

My bf keeps getting sex/casual spam that is dating – must I get worried or run?

Hello. Allow me to begin by suggesting about myself. We am a rather intelligent, fiercely separate, and appealing 41 12 months mother that is old of (21, 19 & 18). that I have actually raised by myself. I’m now at point during my life where At long last have actually the freedom to devote myself to a relationship. Back 2013, I met a guy on-line and we’ve been together since july. Really, now we have been residing together. To be truthful, at the beginning, i did not think he had been my precise kind, but I thought we might provide him the possibility. After a couple of months of dating, things he stated never began incorporating up. Therefore, after some investigating, knew he had said a few lies. Whenever very very first confronted. he attempted to lie about this more. Justifying the lies by saying he simply desired to be ideal for me. This very nearly broke us up. But we offered us another possibility. I would ike to include, one of many lies was which he have been alone (no relationships or intercourse) since their final relationship that is serious that was couple of years past. I found that hard to trust, but I experienced been alone for more than four years (by option) – thus I offered him the main benefit of the question. Who was simply we to express otherwise? After providing me passwords to their facebook and email records (to trust that is earn i came across conversations along with other girl which suggested he had had numerous flings. Also communications to buddies saying he would been with more than 15 ladies in a month! whenever I confronted him once more. he reported. it had been bull crap. simply guys playing it to produce himself look good. In the last couple of months, I have discovered which he had active records on other sites that are dating. Whenever I looked over the game, there was clearly absolutely absolutely nothing current. I inquired him about any of it and then he told us to delete every thing. I am loved by him and forgot he also had them. Therefore we did. Now, recently, he’s got been getting spam mail from web web web sites like “flirt” f*ckbuddy” and many more. Whenever he is asked by me. he simply claims it is spam and do just do it a look it over and delete every thing we find. He first laughs for not trusting him about it when confronted. and then gets mad at me. Since far as i’m concerned – he could be damn happy to own me and I also am furious of this possibility which he could possibly be searching somewhere else for excitement. seeing that he scarcely touches me personally. I will be frustrated because he just desires intercourse as he wishes it and I also is not “in the mood” without getting accused of tossing a tantrum because I’m not “getting any”. He informs me if i would like someone to “rail me personally each night” to get find another person”. This hurts me personally because i will be extremely attractive and in good physical shape. Evidently i will be great during intercourse and all of their buddies (young and old) simply tell him he has an excellent hot girlfriend and “what is she doing to you?”. He could be for me to see at any given time with me all the time and leaves his phone and passwords open. Therefore I can not see him really cheating on me personally. What exactly do you believe. he’s telling me personally the truth or being produced complete trick?

Final modified by tbay72; 04-12-2014 at 11:43 AM .

I believe he’s getting spam because he had been on a lot of web web sites.

In addition think you’ve got settled.for some body you might be attempting to make fit. Your libidos are not in sync, a tendency is had by him to lie and there were enough “chances” provided spread. Life is just too short to stay for “Mr OK”.

>>he’d been with more than 15 ladies in a month! ..seeing me. as he scarcely touches . he’s got been getting spam mail from web web sites like “flirt” f*ckbuddy” and many more.

okay, that together results in problems that are potential.

First, you understand he lies.

Of course he is seeing 15 ladies a he could have a taste for anonymous ‘dirty’ sex month. A lot of guys had been raised on porn movies and certainly will get yourself a style for the sort of ‘dirty girl’ thing yet not wanting their girl that is regular to ‘dirty’. Therefore he desires their intercourse become ‘dirty’ with random females, but their desires their partner to be ‘clean’ and probably does not wish ‘normal’ sex along with her much because their appetite is actually for ‘dirty’ in which he can not resolve that old fashioned tramp/madonna complex. And that means you’re their Madonna, and they are their tramps. So he will not be too thinking about intercourse with you if he is busily shagging girls searching for dirty/porn type sex from the part.

Together with spam that is dirty most likely means he is been visiting sites for porn or even to connect, that get him on mailing lists for intercourse spam. He is maybe perhaps maybe not planning to get yourself a sex spam e-mail list from visiting most non-sex internet sites, but gets their current email address sold to many other intercourse sites/spam if he visits web web web sites that pander to porn or sex hookups.

And this would certainly provide me pause. The worst thing is the lying, particularly about their intimate history. He could be lying about making love along with other females, and SAYING he could be lying about making love with 15 girls to their buddies, as he might very well be doing both, exaggerating the amount a bit to impress their buddies, yet women that are still seeing along side it as f*buddies. In which he’s 40s, not 15! that bragging bravado is ridiculous at their age.

Therefore I think this could provide me pause. While making me go right to the physician to obtain tested for STDs. The truth is he could offer you their passwords for e-mail, phone, FB etc., however it is ridiculously an easy task to produce another e-mail and FB account under another name(or use a variant just of his very own) and do not inform you of it. And obtain a burner phone you don’t learn about to set up hookups along with other ladies. I understand a womanizer which is what he did. He previously one identity that is formal number of makes up about their spouse, and various accounts/phone for their other ladies.

And when some guy who was simply allowed to be my BF switched me straight straight down for intercourse? Ummm no, he would get dumped. He is most likely making love along with other females usually sufficient which he does not need/want it away from you. Of course he is the kind who would like a ‘pure’ GF and lots of trampy ladies from the relative part, it could also explain this sort of behavior.

You may you will need to investigate more to see if he could be cheating regarding the part. (personal detective? keylogger on your personal computer?). But truthfully I do not know if we’d stick with a liar or somebody rejecting me personally intimately like he does you. We dated a man who ended up to possess an entire live that is double the medial side happening, plus the 2nd you do not feel you can rely on someone or they are liars/hiding their genuine selves, it really is fundamentally over.

I am divorced for 6 years and I also get spam sex still mail to my account. That is our password etc. and it also states, Hi wanna be my f**k buddy and don’t forget me personally? That is. blah, blah, blah.

It is got by me ALL the time! Therefore with that said, spam sex email messages aren’t anything.

The rest of the material. I’m not sure.

Whenever my ex bf had an event, the main recovery and getting past it absolutely was him being ‘transparent’. like providing you the telephone, passwords etc.

He could be doing all that. And a lot of individuals on right right here would think WOW you might be overstepping your boundaries. So my estimation is, he desires you and just you. and about it if you don’t lay off the nagging him. he can get sick and tired of it and perhaps look some other place.

Rather than thinking just exactly how wonderful and hot YOU MAY BE. begin thinking just just how wonderful he could be by providing you access that is full every thing he’s! In my opinion he could be bending over backwards to show to you personally he could be trustworthy!

The way the heck i missed the ‘he hardly touches me personally’ i don’t understand. Possibly he could be experiencing like he is used being a ‘sex device’. lol I had a guy who said that once when it was wanted by me!

But like i said, the spam is absolutely absolutely nothing.